TMI About Him and I

Tonight has me daydreaming about Luke. It was five years ago tonight over an Italian dinner in downtown that he asked me to be his girlfriend. My first reaction was "Did my Dad say okay?" followed quickly by "I mean yes!" I wasn't expecting it and then again I was. It was such a romantic night followed by sadness when   we realized I would be heading back to college the following week. So many memories about Luke and I flooded my mind last night as I tried to sleep. Little memories that no one may know of and maybe don't want/need to know.

So badly we wanted to kiss each other way earlier than what we did. We managed to hold off until the night of engagement. After he popped the ring on, he leaned in to kiss me. However, I wanted to look my ring! I'm not sure what this says about my character, but I cut our kiss short to stare at my new diamonds! Kinda did the same thing in college when he sent me a Valentine's Day package with explicit instructions not to open in until Valentine's Day. Did I wait? Nope. Opened it that night and read his letter to me and everything. Even munched on a few of the cookies. To this day he doesn't know I did that. Again, not sure what that says about my character.

I remember so many people cautioning me about Luke. Well meaning church people.

 "Make sure he does this and make sure he does that, and don't let him say that to you".
" You don't know anything about him".
" You hold hands?!"

It never made me mad, the comments. It didn't make me any more cautious either.

I remember my Dad telling Luke he was not allowed to hold my hand. This was after I had graduated college and was home for good. Luke respectfully disagreed, spoke to him about it, and changed his mind. I was in awe that he had the courage to do that. We haven't let go since then.

We fought. We fought all the time. We fought while I was in college, sometimes until 2:00 am. We fought after I had graduated, sometimes until 3:00 am. Poor Kelsey had to share a room with me and our arguing over the phone would wake her up. Sleepily and angrily she would mumble multiple times that we needed to break up. I found out that the day Luke bought my ring was one of our big fight days. After we got engaged our fighting almost completely stopped. When we got married it literally stopped. I'm told that we are an unusual exception to the rule of how you act while dating is how you will act when married.

We never finished a relationship book. Throughout our dating and engagement days we were given multiple books to read together in order to have meaningful time together. We never read a single one (except the one for marriage counseling).

He was so kind. So gentlemanly. So good with people. In the past when I have had a crush on a boy, it would dissipate after a month or so. I was expecting this to happen with Luke (so where my parents). It never happened. I still have a crush on him.

Many times we fell asleep while talking to each other on the phone. We would wake up the next morning and our phones would still be connected. My first month back at college we racked up a $400+ phone bill. I didn't freak. I knew that was going to be a good memory for us, not a bad one.

The very first time Luke made contact with me I was sitting on my dorm bed. It was Thanksgiving Day and my friends where waiting for me to join them on the soccer field for the championship soccer game. That very moment I knew I was going to marry him someday. Total honesty.

The first time I responded to his e-mail he didn't pick up on my playful, sarcastic humor. He forwarded the message to his brother and asked if I was being a smart-a** (his words, not mine). Thankfully his brother was smarter than him and told him it sounded like I was giving off a good vibe. Whew! Almost blew it right off the bat! 

He took me on the best dates ever. I sometimes wondered how he could afford these places, but assumed his two jobs helped out. Later I found out he would use his winnings from Thursday night poker with the guys to fund some of our dates.

He lost his job months before our wedding day. The company had to make cutbacks due to the economy and he was one of those cutbacks. The fact that I was about to marry a man who was jobless didn't worry  me for one second and I made sure he knew that. When there is a guy who is as responsible and hardworking and driven as Luke, you just know better than to worry about trivial things like that. Sure enough a week later he got an event set-up job at Semiahmoo, which turned into Security Officer at Semiahmoo, which turned into Security for a casino, which turned into Surveillance, which turned into his Law Enforcement career. Best thing that ever happened for his career was to get laid off that day.

I swore in front of him. I can't remember why, but something startled me enough to cause me to swear. I have never seen such an assumed look on a face. I blushed so hard and didn't know what to do until he said:

 "Kimberly! That is probably that cutest thing I have very heard come out of such a sweet little mouth."

I could literally go on and on, but I think I have said more than enough for one night! Bottom line is I'm crazy about my husband and still amazed he wanted to marry me! I will never take him for granted.